Saying no

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Claim

Saying no to something is saying yes to something else, and vice versa, because time and energy are limited, so every decision we make has an Every choice costs the alternatives you gave up.

Explanation

Committing to work more leaves less time for your family. Doing too much will cause Burnout is chronic exhaustion from overwhelming demands. Scheduling all your time prevents spontaneous and flexibility.

We tend to over commit because our future is less tangible than our current self, we naievly believe that we will have more time in the future, or that future us will be able to withstand these commitments, even if currently we are unable to. It's a form of We prefer immediate benefits over delayed ones that we push commitments further to the future, while protecting our current self.

Alternatively, we over commit because we don't want to disappoint others Social environment shapes behavior and identity through norms and conformity. We wish to meet their Expectations shape wellbeing through the gap between desires and reality of us, so we say yes, even if internally we wish to say no.

Why it matters

By saying no, we free time, mental power, money and motivation for the more important things. By committing to less, we can do more Improvement often comes from removing rather than adding.

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Either way, saying no is a form of Acting in alignment with your values is authenticity, it is to align our actions with our self, to live according to our preferences and not others.. Additionally, saying no prevents you from asking yourself later on Knowing when to stop prevents wasted persistence on misaligned goals, which is a much harder decision to make than to say no in the first place.

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