Regret

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We often fee regret about the things we didn't do, rather than on the things we have done. If not processed well, regret can turn into Guilt, where we Blame ourselves of our actions. Although, regret is often tied to cases where we felt a lack of self control, moments when we were impulsive or experienced Emotional hijacking

To make good use of regret, we have to see what we can learn about how to act better in the future, rather than fall into Depression about what had not happened, or could have happened differently. It's about taking Responsibility and focusing on forward thinking. A key distinction is to recognize and accept what was in our control and what wasn't. There is no sense of regretting things outside of our control, nor about things that we can no longer change. The past is in the past and it is unchangeable, the only thing we control is how we act from this moment forward.

Regret is a power tool. It is a mix of creative skills, the ability to imagine the Counterfactual and asses the implications of that change on our lives. As with other "negative emotions", regret can be used as a source of motivation Emotional Aikido

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🔼Topic:: Emotions (MOC) ◀Origin:: Hidden Brain 🔗Link:: Source