Jealousy

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Claim

Jealousy is when we make Comparing ourselves to others damages wellbeing and progress, and focus on what the other have that we do not.

Explanation

It's a form of reverse Attachment distorts how we see the things we cling to. We focus on how others are better, richer, stronger, powerful than we are, yet we fail to see the bad in their lives, or the good in ours Practicing gratitude shifts perspective toward positive wellbeing.

Why it matters

We become fixated on getting what the other have, or even worse, bringing them down to "our level", even at the price of our own happiness Happiness is contentment. We fall pray to Deferring happiness to future goals creates present suffering, that if only we had what the other has, then we would be happy, unaware that there's always something or someone to be jealous about.

The only way to combat jealousy is to focus on yourself. On comparing yourself to yourself, how far you've come in these last years, to appreciate the good that you have in your life now, and remember that the grass is always greener, yet it doesn't mean it's healthier.

Examples

Supporters

People intentionally signal their best qualities, as if their lives are pure bliss, although the more "perfect" the signal, usually the faker it is.

Opposers

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Overview

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