Rejection

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Claim

Rejection is a very common phenomenon and one of our greatest Fear is a primal survival emotion triggered by perceived danger.

Explanation

We try to avoid it because we think it would damage our Self-worth is accurate assessment of your capabilities.

Why it matters

As with any other emotion, philosophy has several answers to handling rejection:

1. Errors - people could be wrong (so don't give too much credit to their rejection). This idea comes from Schopenhauer. For example if you got turned down at an interview, it's not necessarily that you are incapable, but rather the person has misjudged your competence.

2. Lesson - A rejection is a type of Feedback is information that enables behavioral improvement. You can learn from it which skills you need sharpening.

3. Mismatch - a "no" doesn't mean you are incapable, just that you are a bad match to what they are seeking, meaning that it would benefit you both if you searched other alternatives. Good decisions match the best option for both sides

4. Move on - according to Stoicism teaches detachment from external events to maintain inner freedom, feeling bad because of rejection is just a fallacy. You either did what you could have so it's out of your control, and if you didn't do everything then you only have yourself to blame, and to do better next time.

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🔼Topic:: Inner Critic and Self-Perception Origin:: Einzelganger 🔗Link:: Source