Identity Discovery

Notes

Identity discovery often occurs during conversations or moments that challenge who we are, that causes us to ask "the big questions", and often lead to Stress can be adaptive or harmful depending on perception and context. What makes these moments difficult is that our internal Narratives shape perception and identity by constructing subjective reality of who we are and what we believe in doesn't match what we have done or who we want to become, therefore creating intrapersonal conflict, and breaking our Actions and physical states unconsciously shape our beliefs. This can also be triggered when we break one of our Absolute rules trade flexibility for willpower savings

Challenging moments contains three levels:

What happened - how we perceive reality and the context of the situation based on our narrative Subjective perception filters how we see external reality
Our feelings - how the story of what happened affects us, which feelings it causes, how do we express them.
Our identity - how does this narrative affect on who I am as a person. What does it tell about me, how does it define me.

Usually, a conflicting narrative is very harmful to our sense of self. So more likely we will change the narrative, or accept it and break down.

Critical moments force examination of identity and belief