Blame

Notes

when we blame others, it's a sign that we fail to accept that we can't control others, that we can only control ourselves. We operate with certain rules in places, binding others without their knowledge sense seeking creatures.

We feel as if we own something, like we deserve certain outcomes, or behaviors, so shift our Expectations accordingly as if they would happen for certain, which leads to Disappointment when reality is different than we wanted it to be. We treat as if the world revolves ourselves, not even thinking about the possibility of others having different viewpoints, ideas or values.

It turns us into victims, by shifting the focus from "what can we do about it " Proactiveness to "why I am right" Conformation Bias. It nullifies the power of our emotions as catalysts for action because we rage without changing our lives, only pushing us towards Depression. We place the Responsibility for solving the situation entirely on the other party, while thinking that we are completely in the right

When we forgive, it is for our own benefit as much as it is for the other party. It frees us to move on, to accept the life we have and letting go of the life we wanted that would never happen.

Blame focuses on the past, we want to focus on the future instead. What can we do about the situation, and how we can reduce such cases in the future. How do we need to change or act differently, as much (or more) than others do.

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🔼Topic:: Emotions (MOC) ↩️Origin:: Hidden Brain 🔗Link:: link